I don't visit my parents because I have a fear of flying so I just tell them I'm working and can't take the trip. I've missed 3 years of holidays already since they moved to California and left me behind. Before they lived a half hour from my apartment and I have no issue driving, but ill be damned if I'm going to drive cross country to visit from east coast. They're really bummed that I'm not going again, and I'm bummed a bit too since I miss them sometimes but a piece of me feels relieved I don't have to fly, but a bit pissed theyre not even considering coming to see me instead. I have friends here I spend time with and if they're not around I feel fine on my own. I just wish they'd visit sometimes.